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I’ve recently been seeing a guy I probably shouldn’t be (my boss), anyway I spend a lot of time at his and it’s been going well until last Friday. We all went out on a work do and he decided to be an idiot and ignore me cause he didn’t like how I got on with the guys on my team (I manage) so he goes off and chats some random bird up. I ignored him for the rest of the night and on the weekend we kissed and made up. Now last night I decided to go back to mine after work and Alex (a guy I manage who is my boss and my mate) took me home. My boss had been seen at his with another bird and on the phone to Alex (boss didn’t realise I was in the car) he told him to make sure I didn’t go round to his house and that he was busy with company with a cheeky laugh. Now my boss doesn’t know I know and I took a day off work today as he relies on me a lot in the office. I decided to tell everyone I wasn’t coming in but not him and he keeps trying to call me but I’ve ignored him as well as deleted him on facebook. I’m not upset but I’ am very angry and I want some ideas on how I can make him feel terrible and like an idiot. Like what gets to guys, I’ve decided to ignore him out of work and when I go back interact with him as little as I can. Treat it like its business and not personal. However I want to know if this will work and I want him to realise he’s lost a good thing and for him to know that I know without saying anything. Plus when a few of us go to the pub after work how do I handle this? IDEAS PLEASE. =]

thats y they say dont mix business with pleasure.....You sed you were "seeing" him. Hes not your boyfriend, so technically he owes you nothing. Dont be immature and try to get him back, just learn from what happens, and try not to make the mistake again. As for when you see him, your best bet is to just keep it professional

thats y they say dont mix business with pleasure.....You sed you were "seeing" him. Hes not your boyfriend, so technically he owes you nothing. Dont be immature and try to get him back, just learn from what happens, and try not to make the mistake again. As for when you see him, your best bet is to just keep it professional

Assuming you want to stay strictly within the boundaries of the law, just hand in your resignation letter, immediately cut off all communications with your boss and leave. Then put him out of mind, don't allow yourself to become any more angry over it. You've suffered enough and been forever resentful won't help matters, it'll just make you suffer.

He'll know he has lost something good and he'll regret it. You don't need to go to any further lengths for revenge, and you'll get to move on.

Only talk to him regarding work and ignore him as much as possible in the office as well as outside. Act as if he's not big loss to you at all.

If you 'probably shouldnt be seeing him' in the first place, then isn't 'all fair in love and war' ? Why have a rulebook if you're breaking the rules?

If you're a career woman and you're interested in keeping your job, you can be playing with fire by trying to hurt the boss. In his mind, he IS the boss and won't be double-crossed or made to look stupid. These types of things lead to dismissal and a lot of embarassment.

As a guy, if a girl shows signs of trying to make me jealous by playing with other guys, I will take the bait, let her go and try another woman, because the lack of loyalty doesn't make me jealous, it just turns me off. So if I were your boss, I would ALMOST say it's justifiable, as a male.

Having said that, you're obviously involved with the guy and I think you should maintain professionalism, but do stop being intimate with him. You won't have to speak for him to know that YOU know. If he's smart, he'll figure it and feel dumb about it. Let him undo himself. You can bring it up in conversation when he does want to talk to you about it personally, but no need to carry that bit of information on you like an armed weapon, that's not a good attitude for your situation.

Be careful how you play this one and hope you have a positive resolution.